6 No-go Places for First Dates

September 20, 2023

Going on a first date can be nerve-wracking. You want to make a good impression and have an enjoyable time getting to know each other. While there are endless options for fun first-date activities, there are also some places you may want to avoid when initially getting to know someone. Here are 6 no-go first-date spots:

1. Hiking or Secluded Areas

Suggesting an isolated hike or walk for a first date can send the wrong message. As one Redditor said, "I won't go into the woods alone with you." Outdoor activities in remote areas can make your date feel unsafe since you two are still strangers. Public parks in populated areas are better options.

2. Their House or Your House

Bringing your date back home too soon can also be off-putting. As one user said, "None of my favorite spots in case it goes bad." Getting to know each other in a neutral public space first is less pressure.

3. Movie Theater

While movies can be fun, they don't allow you to actually converse. Sitting silently in the dark provides no opportunity to get to know each other. Save the movie date for once you've established a connection.

4. Fancy Restaurants

Expensive dining adds pressure and can be uncomfortable if you quickly realize you're not a fit. Casual coffee shops or diners allow you to easily end the date if needed.

5. Clubs

Loud rowdy bars make conversation impossible. Clubs with drinking and dancing create an environment that is not conducive to getting to know someone. Save these spots for later dates once you've established a rapport.

6. Activity Dates

Doing an activity like bowling, escape rooms or comedy shows leaves little opportunity for talking. It's hard to get a sense of compatibility when you can't have a real conversation. Save active dates for once you know you like each other.


Ideal First Date


The ideal first date spot is somewhere public, low-key, and allows you to focus on each other. Parks, coffee shops, and casual restaurants check all the boxes. The most important part of a first date is gauging your chemistry and compatibility. Avoid any place too loud, expensive, or isolated so you can truly connect and see if you're a good match!

First dates can be full of potential, so avoid any place that hinders your ability to comfortably get to know each other. Public spaces that enable conversation are always the best bet for making a great first impression and deciding if you'd like a second date!

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