8 Ways to Master the Art of Solo Clubbing

Going out clubbing alone can seem intimidating at first, but it can actually be an incredibly fun and liberating experience. As someone who was in a toxic relationship for 5 years and now finds himself newly single, I decided to start going out solo to clubs and bars on the weekends. It ended up being one of the best decisions I've made in a long time. Here are my tips for having an amazing night out on your own.

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Overcome the Initial Nerves

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The first time going out alone can make anyone feel nervous. It's totally normal, but try to push past those jitters. Once you take the leap that first time, it gets easier every time after that. Remind yourself that you're doing this for you - to have fun, meet new people, and enjoy being free and on your own schedule. The club is full of other people looking to have a good time too.

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Chat Up the Bartenders

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Sit at the bar top and strike up casual banter with the bartenders. Ask them about speciality drinks or popular shots. Not only will they give you insider info, but they'll often hook you up with freebies too. Plus, sitting at the bar makes you more approachable to other solo people looking to mingle.

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Scope Out Group Dynamics

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Pay attention to the energy and dynamic of different groups around the club. Seek out people who seem open and friendly. Avoid loud packs that give off territorial energy. Look for pairs or mixed groups that seem chill and inclusive.

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Compliment Strangers

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Both men and women appreciate genuine compliments. Break the ice by telling someone you like their hair, jewelry, tattoos, shirt - whatever stands out. Just be sure to keep it appropriate and move on if they seem unreceptive.

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Loosen Up on the Dance Floor

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Have a few drinks (but not too many) to loosen up and then hit the dance floor solo. Feeling the music and letting go of any self-consciousness is infectious. Others around you will take notice and you might just end up with a dance partner or group that pulls you into their orbit.

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Meet People in Line

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Lines are boring. Strike up casual banter with those around you while waiting for drinks, bathrooms, coat checks, etc. Just chatting helps the time pass faster for everyone.

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Go Outside for a Smoke or Some Air

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The smoking section is great for meeting fellow nicotine fiends. Bum a cigarette or ask for a light. Even if you don't smoke, head outside periodically just to chat with those who do. The fresh air break also revitalizes you.

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Say Yes to After Parties or Group Bar Hops

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Make new friends? Great! Say yes if they invite you to join them at a new spot or an after party when the club closes down. The night doesn't have to end just because you're solo.

The key is being outgoing, staying positive, and not taking yourself too seriously. Even if you don't make a love connection, you'll still meet cool new people. And who knows - maybe even a future girlfriend or boyfriend!

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Clubbing Alone Safely

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While clubbing solo can be a blast, safety should also be a priority:

• Don't overdo it on the drinks. Stay sober enough to stay alert and protect yourself.
• Let a friend know where you're going and check in with them periodically.
• Use ride share services - don't walk to your car alone at bar close.
• Avoid aggressive, overzealous guys. Don't be afraid to ask venue staff for help creating distance.
• Women should keep pepper spray on hand and be vigilant about drinks. Sadly, creeps do exist.

The club scene really opens up when you're on your own schedule. Dancing to your own beat and mingling with an open-minded attitude leads to great connections and fun. Once you try flying solo, you may never want to go back to the club any other way!

Source: Reddit